Your wedding day is one of the best of your entire life – it is the beginning of a brand new adventure where you shift from being an “I” to a “we”. You want your wedding day to reflect you, to be fun, and to be the start of all the magic that is to come.
However progressive you are, there are some pieces of traditional wedding etiquette that cannot really be forgotten about.
Whether you want to embrace this or just want to please your family, there are some things that might seem a little strange. Don’t worry! You can learn to love traditional wedding etiquette without following it exactly. Take a deep breath and dive in with our handy hints (you can even give them a modern twist, we promise)!
Are you just not a cake person? It’s okay, not everyone is. But it is safe to say that most guests will expect a cake at your wedding. Many will want to take a slice home and sleep with it under their pillow so they can dream of their own future spouse (sounds strange, but it’s a real thing).
While you might not want to skip out on the cake, you can keep it creative. Why not create a cake shape out of cupcakes, or even doughnuts? Though perhaps those won’t be the best for the under the pillow tradition…
Giving the bride (or groom) away
We all know that the tradition is for the bride to be given away by her father. Increasingly, though, this is not a tradition that many people want to follow to the letter. You can still enjoy the feeling of transition, though – have both your mum and dad give you away, or another friend or relative altogether. It’s a power move to walk down the aisle alone, but if you want to embrace this tradition, you can do it in your own unique way with whoever you love most.
The confetti moment
Guests love to throw rice at the happy couple – and we get it, waving you off to your new life with luck and love is a wonderful tradition.
But as we know, throwing uncooked rice is a bad idea for birds, and confetti can cause littering. A fun way to keep this tradition alive is to get your guests to blow bubbles at you, which looks incredible (and unusual) in pictures and will cause no mess to be left behind. Or if bubbles aren’t your thing, you could even choose sparklers – which will look especially pretty at night.
Your first dance
Whether you are much of a dancer or not, the first dance can be a high-pressure moment. Make it your own by keeping it light and silly, getting your bridesmaids or friends involved, or even breaking out a full routine to get your guests giggling. It can be a fun moment for everyone, and that is surely some traditional wedding etiquette worth hanging on to! Now all you need to do is pick a song…
Remember, your wedding day should reflect you and your spouse. Embrace traditional wedding etiquette in a way that suits your style, and have the best day ever.